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I’m in my mid forties. I met him at school going back for a second degree in 2013. He moved in a few months after separating from his wife in 2016. We went through his significant debt, divorce, selling his home after his friends that were renting trashed it, getting him started in travel nursing, having to put down both our senior dogs, getting a new puppy, a cancer diagnosis for me during first wave Covid.
I had a lot of resentment that were were not moving along fast enough ( engagement, moving to bigger apartment) in life as I wanted and that is his focus was on travel nursing which he loved doing. We are both drinkers and I would blow up and say awful things to him that I would not recall the next day. That behavior went on for years. I hated myself for drinking and him for thinking I could do it normally with him. He proposed when I was at my sixth round of chemo. I was pissed that he waited when I should have seen it as a beautiful sign of commitment. I said no because I was upset we didn’t talk about extensively first what marriage would look like. I was resentful that his career always came first although he was extremely generous and supportive.
I kept pushing him away, breaking up with him, and last summer asked him to separate and get a rental near his job. He met someone 15 years younger than me and in the guise of finally reaching his limit left.
I am absolutely devastated. He was a truly wonderful person that I took for granted and treated terribly way too many times. I don’t think I will ever recover from this loss that I orchestrated. I’ve lost my job, my savings is running out and now it looks like my apartment building is being sold and I will be struggling for housing. I’m considering rehoming my beloved dog because I can’t give her the quality of life she deserve.
I barely make it through every day. This level of self-sabotage and self-destruction is impressive to even me. I’m afraid all the time and the future looks pretty bleak.

Having issues with getting solid FPS in most games. My friend built this PC back in 2020 and I recently upgraded to a 3090 from a 2060ti
I mostly play Destiny 2 and rarely get anything above 80-90 fps on low settings. Around 80 on Modern Warfare 2 on high settings, and at most hitting 60-70 on Cyberpunk with medium settings. Really not sure what's going on. I have looked up a few videos and tried some solutions with my bios, but I am not too sure what to do. I was told I should think about upgrading my CPU from a Ryzen 7 3700x to Ryzen 9 5900 or 7000 series, but I don't want to spend extra money if there is something I can do to fix this.
Solutions I have tried:

• Changing XMP
• Changing the PCEI thing
• Updating Graphics drivers
• Reinstalling CPU drivers

Not sure what else to do. Not too well versed in this, but any help would be appreciated.
Here are my user benchmarks. I also downloaded HWinfo, but I am not sure what is/isn't important for this issue.
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[UserBenchmarks: Game 177%, Desk 90%, Work 176%](https://www.userbenchmark.com/UserRun/60405466)
CPU: AMD Ryzen 7 3700X - 87.4%
GPU: Nvidia RTX 3090 - 205.9%
SSD: WDC WDS500G2B0B-00YS70 500GB - 83.5%
SSD: Samsung 860 QVO 1TB - 100%
HDD: WD Blue 1TB (2012) - 73.7%
RAM: G.SKILL F4 DDR4 3600 C19 2x16GB - 97.6%
MBD: Gigabyte GA-B550M DS3H

I'm currently a senior in college. I used to hang out with this girl a lot my freshman year, we met in the dorms the first week. I really liked her at first and she really liked me too, but then after only a semester of hooking up she started to act very relationshipy, and it was honestly weird to me so I ended things. She was always drunk calling me for a while after, which annoyed me a lot, but after a while it stopped and she got over it, I assume. She's a pretty girl so I also assume she has had no problem finding what she is looking for.
If I passed her on the street, she usually ignored me. But this year I've been seeing her out and about often lately and she's always super friendly. Nothing more, usually just a nice conversation or two and then she slips out of wherever we are with her friends unnoticed later in the night. She's always smiling and she really seems happy. She's done some really cool and impressive things the past few years, and has definitely gotten her life together a lot since freshman year. And she constantly has boys coming up to her, but she doesn't entertain them much more than a quick conversation and then back to her friends, and I know for a fact it's not because she has a boyfriend because mutual friends we have have told me she doesn't and they insist she would still be interested, but I'm not sure if they just are saying what they think I want to hear. To put it lightly, now that she's emotionally matured, she's my dream girl.
Maybe it's because we're both about to graduate but I can't help but wonder if I made a huge mistake when I was 18 and dumb and just looking to hook up with a bunch of girls, and her and I could've been happy together by now? How do I stop living in regret? It's eating me alive, and if energies really do attract then maybe that's the reason I am seeing her all of a sudden. I wonder if I should reach out and see what she's doing after college, we both are in the business school so it's possible we have similar jobs lined up, especially since our school is near a city many students end up in. I don't want to leave school thinking I could've done more or better, but I also don't want to mess with her peace, since she seemed to really despise me for so long. Any advice?

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TL;DR: Would it be a shitty, selfish thing to do if I distance myself from a pessimistic/depressed friend knowing the state she’s in and that she relies on me for a lot of things in order to protect my own sanity and (in the long run) mental health?
I have this friend from high school who I got closer to in our first year of college. She’s a really nice girl and we have a lot in common and I would genuinely consider her to be one of my best friends if it wasn’t for one major thing. She is a notorious pessimist. I’m not sure if she intends it to be that way but she is aware of it and has apologized when her pessimism starts to make the people around her uncomfortable but nothing rly ever changes. I understand that not everyone can be 100% all the time (I know I’m not) but with her it feels almost a little excessive. I’ve talked to her about it and urged her to get some form of help as she does seem to have some depressive symptoms but she herself adamantly refuses to receive help (she comes up with several different reasons each time we talk about it) but despite that still constantly talks about all her mental issues with/around me (in the form of passive comments or she’ll be talking to herself out loud about it). She even outwardly told me that she relies on me to (in serious summary) basically go about daily function and that if I wasn’t around that she wouldn’t really every be doing much.
Personally, as someone who is recently coming out of my own depressive episode and is fortunate enough to have systems in place to help me (ie therapy) being around her isn’t very conducive for just my overall mood and it hasn’t gotten to the point where it has affected my own progress but i’m afraid of it getting to that point especially if I keep hanging around someone who openly talks about suicide methods (as someone who was once suicidal it’s a really uncomfortable topic) and overall has a very interesting? (floabt) view on mental illness (some of her comments come off as pretty dismissive of mental issues as a whole). However I feel like it would be a shitty thing to do to distance myself from someone who’s outwardly told me that they see me as their daily motivation in a way

I have been with my SO for over a decade. I have known his kid since he was three. BM has always been super high conflict and my SO was very bad at setting boundaries. This caused a lot of resentment.
Step kid and I were in great terms until teenage years when he decided he only loved his BM and treated me and his father poorly. Most of this was directed towards me. I understood he was a kid but also I was paying his bills and putting out a ton of money for his sports, car, etc. fast forward to now. SK wants to go to college and will need to take out loans because neither of his parents put aside money.
Twist of fate- I work at a prestigious university in my state. Part of my benefit package is I can send my dependents to college for a four year degree as long as they maintain a certain gpa, don’t take a semester off (excluding the summer semesters), and if I remain employed. My SO and I have two kids of our own who will likely use this benefit if they choose to go to college.
Here’s the thing. SK is now 18 and attitude hasn’t changed towards me. Only reaches out if he needs something, has put very mean things on social media about me to garnish attention and is just a little spoiled jerk. Although I know SO is very much to blame, I also think the kid is old enough to know better. I don’t want to offer him my tuition benefit. I think it would do him good to work for his tuition and learn some appreciation. I told SO that the benefit isn’t for him since we did not claim him in our taxes (he always let the ex claim him despite any court order).
Am I being a jerk? I’m tired of feeling used and I think this kid needs to learn

Family and friends (who are teachers) are telling me to move to another district or school after some of the stuff that happened to me in this one this year and last year. The thing is, in many ways, I'm incredibly lucky in my current situation? I'm not convinced changing schools or districts will solve my the ones I have currently without giving me different ones to lose my mind over. So I'd appreciate some outside perspective.
My situation: I am an ESL teacher in an inner city vocational high school. I teach immigrant, refugee, and asylum seeking teens the very first English they learn. A lot of my job is social emotional, since they have various levels of trauma or experience with formal education.
Pros:

• My students are (mostly) engaged and motivated and I enjoy the kind of work I do with them
• I only have 7 students. Total. Across all rosters.
• I have two preps, and only teach two classes a day.
• I have a supportive admin team and great coworkers
• The school has a student run restaurant I can eat at, and all the other shops provide similar fun services
• I have a decent work/life balance; I can get all my work done - planning and grading - in school. I arrive and leave at the bell.
• I have an incredible amount of freedom to teach my students what I want, with little restriction, but I still have an ok curriculum to draw from for inspiration.
• Things are pretty laissez faire - you're "supposed" to do a lot of things, but we're given a lot of grey space to interpret it. Things like, what the gradebook looks like, how often should grades be inserted, what the lesson plan looks like, sharing lesson plans with admin in advance.
• I have a 15 minute commute to work. By bus
• I don't need a car, which is great, because I hate and am scared of driving.
• I make a really decent salary
• I have a strong union.

Cons:

• The school climate outside of my class can be nightmarish. I changed jobs from history to ESL to escape gaslighting, sexual harassment, and invasions of students into my room. I still have to experience this, however, because I push in to classes. In one case this year, a student threatened to shoot me and my family.
• The school district has threatened my life with its policies twice. Most recently, when that student threatened to shoot me, they refused to remove him despite ongoing harassment until I got a PTSD diagnosis, submitted a formal letter from my doctor, pressed charges on the kid, AND got a Stay Away order from the judge.
• The school is in one of the most infamous neighborhoods in the country. Drug use, homelessness, and gang violence is rampant, the streets are disgusting, etc. There have been multiple instances of gun violence outside the school building during and just after dismissal. Students have been hurt or killed.
• There are basically no resources to go around, and the school is broken in every way and severely understaffed.
• The effects on my health have been huge. Just to maintain my health and sanity, I see a therapist, psychiatrist, nutritionist, and personal trainer.
• The effects on my wallet are huge. I make decent money and don't have many expenses, but I'm so exhausted I eat take out most days. All those medical professionals? Expensive.

So should I leave the school district? Suck it up and stay for the benefits? I'm leaning towards leaving public school teaching all together but that poses its own hurdles.

In the past I've always put money into a project without finding out of people want what I've got to offer. My wife suggested a different strategy this time. We started advertising bounce houses to rent in local FB groups yesterday knowing that 1. Most people will start scheduling for summer now. And 2. If someone decides they want to book sooner we could go buy the unit locally before we have our first bounce house go out. We'll, we've booked a unit for $470 and collected the deposit already.
Yes i realize I'll need to get insurance and other things in place but I'm excited to have our first customer within 24hrs of advertising for free.
I do have a really good friend in the business for over ten years and he's going to be my mentor to help me avoid the mistakes he made.
Ready or not here we go!!

I’ve (23 m) had this back and forth thing with this girl (23) for a year now. I like her a lot and really love spending time with her. The only problem is that she doesn’t seem interested in having sex with me. It’s gotten really hard for me to get her alone with me as she keeps bringing her friends out with us and when I do get alone with her all she wants me to do is kiss and cuddle her. I know this makes me sound like an asshole probably but I’m kinda serious with her and haven’t been seeing anyone else so for as much as I do like kissing and cuddling her when it doesn’t amount to anything else I always end up feeling kinda frustrated. Idk what to do because this just feels like a douchey thing to outright ask a person. She clearly is really into me so I know that’s not the problem either.

I just started a new job this week. It's a semi new field for me so there is much to learn. The company that hired me knew this and promised that was no issue and everything could be learned in training. I am currently working in an office doing all training remotely through screen share. The company is under staffed and my trainer has all of their duties to complete in the process of also training me. My trainer is constantly pulled off of our training sometimes going 30 minutes before returning leaving me to basically do nothing until they return. At this point nearly a week into training I feel like a quarter of the time is dedicated to actual training and it leaves me very frustrated.
My trainer is good when they have the time to dedicate to training. They have made comments about how understaffed and overworked our department is and has been for the last few years. They are pushing to complete my training within 3 to 4 weeks.
Do I stick it out ? Start sending out resumes to new jobs? I feel stuck in the middle.

Does the resentment for your MIL ever end? I come here to vent from time to time about her. She sabotaged my bf journey for which I can never forgive her nor forget. Like today she was playing with LO on the floor. I gave some toys and a pillow to keep behind my 7 month old LO. I was in my room and when I came out, LO was between her legs and she was bending and hovering over her face. I got annoyed as she never lets LO play independently, always pushes herself in LO’s vision. So, anyways I chose to ignore it as I didn’t want to cause a tense environment. LO saw me and started babbling to me, I smiled and responded. And as always, MIL brought her face close to LO as if to block me and wanting LO to choose her(sometimes LO does lean over to her when she does that which pisses me to no end). But my sweet sweet daughter smiled and put her arms in my direction. I was so happy that MIL’s tactics to gain her attention didn’t work. Why are they so obviously annoying! Like I know what she is trying to do! Doesn’t it occur to her that looks like a fool trying so hard like that?!
Also, the other day we were talking about one of our dogs who gave birth to a single puppy. I was saying how lucky she is to have all the milk to herself and MIL said with a contemptuous face that the puppy is attached to mum’s boob 24/7. That brought back bad memories. Thanks MIL for reminding me again why you sabotaged my BF journey because you didn’t want my LO to be attached to me 24/7. You wanted her to be with you and choose you over me so that you can feed her whenever you wanted to. Thanks to you that my baby had bottle preference and I had to pump. Thanks to you that I cried so much trying to get her to latch again( she was a champion nurser in the first month). Thanks to you I got severe PPA. And thanks to you that you don’t get time with LO as much as you want because you created this resentment within me so much that I cannot look at you holding my LO without feeling anxious and stressed. If only you acted like a grandma and not like mom to my LO maybe I would have trusted you enough to leave her with you and go out. I rather stay in the house missing out on things than give her to you to babysit. I resent her so much, some days I can’t sleep when I think of those newborn days and her antics.

We have set up an online domain server where people can connect with their PC's to add processing power to the pool of users to tackle this password crack for the debug build of Steel Battalion Line of Contact. Its simple to join the setup and it will automatically do its thing, if you want to help out by joining the pool of users already connected. Feel free to reach out as any help will go a long way. It's been set up so anyone can join and leave the server at any time and we won't lose any data gathered during that time the PC was connected. It's gonna take a while but if you have any spare time to leave your computer running hooked up to the server, it will help us crack the code to this LoC build quicker. Thanks all who have chipped in so far on this!

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I read the rules but if this kind of post isn't allowed feel free to delete mods!
Hi all, I've been doing tons of research of the last few weeks and it seems like there's just infinite information available, and I can't tell what's legit or what's just a sales pitch, especially on sales sites. I'm not trying to push off decision making on others, but I would love some advice, especially from you fine folks that have experience.
About me: I live in Seattle, WA (USA), want to reduce the use of my car, and want to ideally reduce my contribution to global warming (as well as traffic, city noise, pollution, etc). I'm not a big "cyclist" but have an acoustic bike and have used it less and less as I've lived in a more hilly area of the city. I'm relatively good at tinkering but I haven't done much (read: any) bike mechanic-style work. Also I'm 5'3" so a relatively small frame/step through is important.
What I'd like to use an e-bike for, in order of importance:

1. Reduce the use of my car
2. travel to/from various bodies of water with my blow-up paddleboard (in its backpack) (yeah I get it, typical seattle)
3. pick up groceries
4. if the right bike with the right range comes along, use it for bikepacking/camping on the nearby islands
5. transport a friend to/from a restaurant/bar on pegs or a back seat

My budget is ~$2800, but for the right bike I could go over. If I find the perfect thing at a lower price that would be great. I have a few panniers/accessories from previously commuting with my acoustic so I don't feel that price needs to include that many accessories.
I've looked at RadPowerBikes and they seem fantastic (especially given they're based in Seattle), but I've also read reviews that they don't last very long, and that their components aren't great. I'm happy to learn how to do upkeep but I'd love to avoid constantly fixing broken things. If these reports are not correct, please let me know!
I've also investigated the 20 mph/28 mph limits and I think it would be neat to be able to go up to 28 mph (on back roads and not on bike paths) but it's not strictly necessary.
So I guess my priorities are

1. Will last a while
2. Can carry some extra weight
3. not tooooo heavy (I am a smallish person)
4. can deal with hills happily
5. has a decent range

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TL;DR - I would like an ebike under $2,800 that will last a while, can carry extra stuff or a person, is not too heavy, and has the power to deal with Seattle hills. Thank you for your help and insight!

tl.dr.: I am trying to find a way to convert a table with predefined steps to equation(s)
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Hi guys, I am trying to solve this problem:
I have 8 items and 8+2 predefined steps. In each step some items can change their count (+/- 1 or +2). I need to find appropriate order of the steps that will lead to all items having the same count.
Prerequisites:

1. All items starts with the same count (which is good)
2. 8 specific steps has to be done at least once, but all of them needs to be done the same amount of times (order is not important)
3. 2 specific steps can be done how many times we wants but the items needs to have sufficient count for it

example of the table:

	A	B	C	D,E,F....
Step1	+1	+2	0	...
Step2	-1	0	+1	...
Step3...8	...	...	...	...
Step9,10

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So if someone could point me to the right direction of how to convert these steps to equations or if there is some other way. I am OK with using WolframAlpha or any other online tool for final calculation, but I don`t know what to put there. Mainly because the second prerequisite.
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p.s. I am doing this for one thing only, so I probably don`t need generic solution, if you tell me that this can be done with pen and paper in few steps I am OK with that either :)
Thanks for any suggestions!

If ur interested in sex or sex content,no need to read further thanks. Ik the chance is slim and maybe I am too young for this but I have been alone forever and I don’t wanna suffer through the pain of losing a short-term relationship. So I am gonna give it a try.I wanna find someone who’s gonna love me deeply and stay forever. Only look for asexuals or aroaces,thanks.
Single/Taken/Complicated: single
Seeking Relationship/Friends/Squish/Other: A serious relationship,my significant other half. Someone who's gentle, genuine, nice, honest, funny,caring, optimistic and most important loyal. Someone who takes relationships seriously, someone who’s in a stage willing to build a life together. Talk daily,share everything,help each other with everything,and be there for each other no matter what. Willing to meet up eventually. Prefer a feminist. Monogamous,child -free,love pets. The age range is 20 to 26.but I wouldn’t mind a woman who’s older than me and I don’t care about women’s looks. I don’t care about genders,cis or trans,sharing similar /same values is more important than anything.
Romantic Orientation:asexual,sex-averse, no sex drive at all, not attracted to sex contents either.Panromantic.
Gender:cis Female
Pronouns:she her
Age:22
Height/Build:5'4 ,average build
Physical Description: black eyes,black hair.I wear glasses but not all the time. I don’t do makeup.I don't like taking pictures but willing to take voice calls and video calls once we get to know each other well.
Personality Description:nice,kind,shy,funny, honest,empathetic, genuine,caring, loyal.I can be very sensitive and emotional sometimes (maybe most of the time) ,sometimes I talk too much and sometimes I don't know what to say. I am clingy,If I am interested in u, I would want to talk to u all the time and know everything about u. I have depression and social anxiety ‚but I am fighting it! I get scared and nervous easily.
Bio: English isn’t my first language.Feminist. I like reading, mostly romance books and detective fictions. I like literature too. Love listening to music,pop,rnb,etc.I love films, tv series, I also like standup comedy. Like Hannah Gadsby.I don't smoke or drink or do drugs.For partner, I do mind if you smoke or do drugs or alcoholic. I am not religious.I love nature, simple lifestyle,animals and gardening. Pretty much love everything that’s funny and lovely.Open-minded, I don't like judging ppl unless they are discriminating against others, then I can't tolerate it.
Location: Asia
I like taking things slowly,but if we click then I guess I would follow ur lead. If u wanna know more, Feel free to DM and tell me a bit about yourself 😊

Originally posted by u/appulfox in TrueOffMyChest on Mar 21, '23, updated March 23rd.
Trigger Warning: Transphobia, bullying in the workplace
Original post
My Coworker Who Misgenders Me Found My Deadname And Told Everyone
So I [24m] just found out some uncomfortable information. So, a while ago, I talked about the lady who had been misgendering me at my job, and she still has been misgendering me, but I've kind of just been putting up with it and ignoring her. Come today, and this really nice pregnant lady that I work with, comes to me at the end of my shift and whispers to me if I'm okay with Ebony (the transphobic coworker) misgendering me and using my dead name.
My heart dropped down to my chest because I knew Ebony was misgendering me, but I didn't know she was using my dead name, let alone even knew what it was. Everyone pretty much calls me Leo. I've only told one person my dead name, and he hates Ebony. The only way that she could have known my dead name is if she was looking over my shoulder while I clock in, or some other way. Either way, that was an invasion of privacy.
I asked the pregnant lady what did she mean by Ebony has been using my dead name, and she tells me that apparently, Ebony had been talking behind my back and had said, "Oh yea, I saw her REAL NAME," and kept saying it and telling the people she was talking to what my dead name was. Not only that, but the other day when I was working, I'd thought that I'd heard her call me by my dead name, but I couldn't tell because I'd only caught a little bit of what she said since I have audio processing issues and she was not fully within earshot. Now I know for a fact that she had.
I ended up going to my boss about this, since he's always been respectful of me and he's going to talk to Ebony. But I'm just so upset and so hurt because who would do this? I've been nothing but nice to her, and I've only tried to be polite to her and she's only been nasty towards me going so far as to tell people private information about myself. Information that I haven't told anybody and that she has no right to tell people. She has no right telling other people's business. And the fact that I had to hear this from somebody else tells me that she knows what she's doing is wrong. If she continues to do this after my boss talks to her, I'm escalating it to HR, I'm not going to tolerate disrespect like this.
EDIT: to clarify the company is UPS, I'm a package handler. All I do when I work there is listen to my music/podcasts and load/unload packages. occasional I engage in conversation with coworkers, but that's a select few, most days I work in silence. she has no viable reason to be harassing me
EDIT 2: someone in the comments was trying to kind of start a bit of a race war so I just want to reiterate that both me and Ebony are black. race has nothing to do with this situation, she's literally just being a bigot. And even if I wasn't trans, this would still be an invasion of privacy. I don't know her like that, why is she trying so hard to get into my business?
EDIT 3 (imsosorry): For those of you that have only something negative to say.... mm I don't care, you're objectively wrong, and I'm not open for discussion about WHY my coworker is terribly in the wrong. And yes my mother and whole family supports me. My dead name is just as dead to them as it is to me and my mother has my current name tattooed onto her. catch this block and argue with the wall :D
OP posts a picture of himself to his profile
EDIT 4: for those wondering if I even pass. I do. I've been happily on testosterone for 2+ years. my voice is decently deep and masculine, I have visible facial hair, and I dress in very baggy clothes. I very much LOOK male. My Face
In the comments:
I agree that I shouldn't have to tolerate this, but I don't really want to escalate it to HR unless she continues to do it after being talked to by my boss. I believe that people can change and, aside from being a nasty transphobe, for the most part she tends to be nice, except to me. I just don't want to cause somebody to lose their job just because of my own comfort
As soon as I found out I went straight to my boss and he said he would take care of it. I'm letting him do that, he's always been respectful of me so I'm trusting him with that. if she continues to misgender me and spread my dead name, then I'll take it to HR
All I do when I go to work is work. most of the time I don't really even talk to anyone, I just do my job and go. if somebody misgenders me I usually politely correct them and they usually end up quickly apologizing and we both go on about our day. The only reason people at work tend to misgender me anyway is because of the fact that she misgenders me. I literally look like a cisgender male. I have a mustache and a beard, the only thing that really gives me away is my chest area since I'm heavy-chested and I sometimes don't wear my binder to work since I sweat. I've asked her two different times very politely if she could stop calling me a girl. she's turned it into an argument both times so I've just put up with it for months. and then she goes and somehow finds my dead name and spreads it around to people. The private information that I never told anyone. I literally only asked for basic respect.

Why don’t you ask her if you can have a chat. Let her know how her behavior makes you feel and that you would like to have a civil work relationship.

OP: I've tried. The first time I tried talking and she made it a fight, the second time, I expressed that it makes me uncomfortable and that I'd like my identity to be respected and for things to be civil, and she treated that like a problem too. She's also bad mouthed trans ppl outside of just me before. She doesn't like trans ppl, so she doesn't like me

Why not just legally change your name? Wouldn't it be easier than having to explain to everyone why your name is different?

OP: that costs money that I currently do not have at the moment. it's not that easy, it's a very extensive process with a LOT of paperwork.

Do they not have an option to allow you to use a "preferred name"?

OP: yea! on all of my documentation except my W2s and the clock in screen, they have "Leo [Last Name]" put in.

What is a dead name? I'm guessing it's your old name before you transformed?

OP: "Before you transformed" pls that's the best phrasing, imma start calling myself a transformer, specifically a decepticon 💀💀
A dead name is the name that a trans person was given at birth. a lot of time, trans ppl change their first name, first socially, then legally.
Update:
My manager is reporting this to HR. I have realized that, in most places, this would absolutely be grounds for termination. there's also the fact that she has potentially put me in danger and as a target for even more discrimination by outing me and my dead name. I very much visibly pass as a man since my voice is fairly deep and I have a mustache and beard, so there is no reason she should be doing this and people at my job are constantly confused when she refers to me by the wrong pronouns. I am not the only person who sees this as a problem
In a comment:
This is the message I got from my manager "Report ID is [REDACTED] They advised, I will hear from someone from UPS in the next 3-4 days and the full HR investigation may take 30 days."
2nd Update 2 days later
A transcript of the text between OOP and his coworker (scroll to the 🔴 to skip the transcript):

Hi it's Leo! can you guys send me y'all's experiences with ebony in one or a few messages?
as well as her history of transphobia?

She butted into a Convo I was having that I wasn't even with her about trans suicide, and she just butts in saying she said they should commit suicide cause "They are an affront to God"
She then went on a tangent about the entire community basically also throwing me in and made very clear people like me and you that should just not exist
Safe to say she isn't a very kind person after all, soon as the attention turns to trans and queer people then it gets nasty and "insult Gods plan"
It sucks cause I thought she was cool, but now I can't even look her in the eye without feeling like she's burning a hole into my skull, if you don't like us keep it to yourself. This is work, not a church

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So I'd been getting a lot of comments about wanting an update if anything happens so, here's that update! I wanted to update on the original post, but it was already atrociously long, so I linked this one to the OG.
Before I start, WOW I was NOT expecting my post(s) to blow up the way it did. Honestly had to turn my notifications off ;;7;; I'm not equipped for that kind of attention. Thank you to everyone who gave me helpful advice! Onto the update!
So my manager texted me stating that a person from UPS security would be contacting me to schedule a time to discuss things and give my statement. When the person contacted me, I let her know when I'd be available. My manager then stated that he'd need to see me after sort (my shift) so I could grab some forms.
During break, I waved over the nice pregnant lady (we'll call her A) and the coworker whom I had trusted with my deadname (we'll call him T). I'd asked them if they could give me their numbers so they could each detail their own experiences with Ebony. below is a screenshot of T's statement.
Afterwards, I finished my shift and met with my manager who informed me that T had given a statement of his own experiences with Ebony.
I'll admit, I was super super nervous. I HATE conflict, and any time I have dish out consequences, I end up feeling guilty no matter how much the other person deserves it (trauma is a powerful thing).
My manager then sat me down, read me the policy review, and explained that me, him, the UPS security person, and a union steward would sit down with me and take my statement. Funnily enough, my boss mentioned that, usually Ebony would be the person they'd have as the union steward, but he understood that, with this situation, it would be "grossly inappropriate" (his words).
He must've noticed have stressed and antsy I was, because he then highlighted that, he feels that this shouldn't backfire on me since no one has ever come to him with problems about me. He mentioned how he respected the fact that I came to talk to him about this.
I then mentioned how this situation made me extremely nervous and he said that I don't need to be. He mentioned how mine and T's statements about Ebony's behavior lines up with past issues he's had with her (outside of being transphobic, she's very confrontational, a gossip, and tends to be very VERY petty).
He also said that I'm not doing anything wrong and that, whatever happens with her is NOT my fault and that I'm not responsible for her actions. He said he wants to have a safe environment for his employees and to come to him if problems arise from others.
I was then given the paper to write my statement on and the policy review to sign and give to him tomorrow.
I'll be honest.. I'm terrified. I've never done this before. Reported someone to HR, that is.
Verifiably, I am somewhat of a doormat sometimes, and my loved ones tell me that I'm too nice or forgiving (my partner explicitly stating that it took both my mom and him to convince me to escalate this to HR instead of just leaving it at my boss, solely because I just didn't want to be the reason that she possibly loses her job).
All of this being said, I feel some form of confidence as well. My manager told me, before I left his office, that he's proud of me for standing up and advocating for myself. I think I'm proud of me, too, but still scared shitless of the outcome. I'll update with whatever happens!
If you'd like to leave some love and support for our OOP, please do so in the comments here, not on the original post. I will let him know i have shared his story here.
Reminders: This sub does not tolerate homophobia, transphobia or bigotry. DO NOT comment on the original posts or contact the original poster. I am not the original poster. This is a repost.

Thursday, March 30th, 2023
With the help of Bob and a few satyrs, Delia’s spent a portion of the morning clearing snow away from the canoe lake. Some of it, anyway - to clear the whole thing would just be too much. The ice seems safe enough to put weight on, and she can only wonder how the naiads are doing in there through this freeze.
“They’re probably fine,” one of the satyrs said, and she’d have to trust that.
Regardless, once the clearing is done, Delia sits herself up on the dock to change her boots for some ice skates, before carefully easing herself down once more. She’d found some extra pairs of skates and, figuring others may want to do the same, brought them out, leaving them lying on the dock for people to take up.
Still, until they do, she’s content enough skating on her own. The snow piled away at the edges of the frozen surface seems an almost luminous white, and the ice sparkles under the sun as Delia glides over it in large, lazy circles, occasionally breaking to do a small twirl in place or pivot to skate backwards for a few seconds. She stops at one point to tuck a stray hair that had been blowing in her face up into her hat, silently lamenting once more the delay in getting to wear cuter outfits for warmer weather.
At least the snow is pretty.
 
[OOC: I’m looking at this sort of as an unofficial activity, by which I mean I think you should also interact with others who show up on the post, not just with Delia. But I do also want some Delia RP :>]

I don't believe for a second that 'SORRY NOT SORRY' is an outtake. A) He wouldn't pour his heart out like that and then not do anything, i don't think. B) He mentions people digging stuff up, and having 'met that girl this year', he was found to be dating Reign after the album?? C) The whole 'You're out of touch' thing was a post CMIYGL thingy, a response.
And that video was so powerful. idk. part of me feels like he's got something big planned, like he's hiding something by calling it an outtake.
or maybe I'm just making shit up idk

As I’ve been on the dating apps more frequently this has come across my mind. Where do you prefer to have a first date?
I prefer something quick and easy (food and drinks) just so we can see if we vibe and then do more elaborate things later.
But I’ve seen a lot of women putting stuff on their profiles like “let’s do more than drinks for the first date” or “dinner and drinks for a first date are boring”, etc.
I tend to be the more upfront person who initiated everything so I almost always end up planning the date. But I’m wondering if I should be doing more?
Any thoughts on where to take someone on a first date? Or if food and drinks are fine?

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